Want to know the Secret Art of Feeling and Growing Rich? Here's what you need.
My darling beauties,
Sometimes I feel compelled to write, while other times I wait for the inspiration to come to me. One of the topics that immediately came to my mind today, as I was thinking of my next insight to share, was the concept of “Having” that I learned not too long ago.
If you've read my previous articles, you'll understand that I am working with a trending topic of good fortune, success, abundance, and how you can attract more wealth in your life.
With harvest season in full bloom, I thought I'd share a helpful resource that supported me in un-doing and re-wiring my mindset in the areas of Wealth and Money.
During the earlier months of this summer, I was at the book store when I randomly came across a little red book. This piece, titled "The Having," was written by author Jooyun Hong and the Master of Mindset, Suh Yoon Lee, as it instantly sparked one of the greatest shifts in paradigm my life has ever known.
Before this fancy read, I struggled relentlessly with my finances. Bad luck and misfortune seemed to follow me around. So, I intended to learn how to master my income, recognize the positives and abundance in my life, and shift my mindset from scarcity to one of absolute riches. (Mission accomplished, by the way.)
From the second I picked up this book, I knew the story sounded familiar. Parent has a rough upbringing, lives with a frugal mindset, passes down limiting ideas, now child lives with the same imprinted beliefs about money. Even reading the first pages of the prologue, I felt emotionally connected to the scarcity. I cried pretty hard in the book store when I read that even in his dying breath, Jooyun's father wouldn't allow himself to spend money on the one thing he loved the most: yellow Corvina.
When I found out that I could change my income by rewiring my brain to feel good about money, I put my heart and soul into learning this concept. I learned that by practicing “Having,” you can grow a conscious relationship to good fortune and can replace feelings of fear for joy when it comes to your beliefs about prosperity.
I realized that Having was far beyond financial numbers. It meant noticing the riches you already have in your life, like good friends, a beautiful view, good health, or anything you seek that is worth the appreciation.
So, yes. Before starting this book, I struggled with my finances. It was hard to believe I “had” anything because I was so focused on measuring material wealth by how many dollars were in my bank account. I went from struggling to see the good in anything, to finally noticing the abundance that lives within and around me.
After learning how to “have,” I changed my emotions as well as the way I felt towards the things I wanted. By replacing feelings of angst and scarcity for the infinite capacity to receive anything I desired, it became increasingly easier to undo the mindset of “not enough” and shift my paradigm towards the faith that “I already have it.”
Of course, I faced a lot of doubts that kept me skeptical and worrying if there was any correlation between my tangible assets and the feelings of being rich. From there, I sought deeper guidance from the guru and the author of this book. I emailed the writer, asking how to bypass the doubts, the heavy emotions, and how she (from her initial experience with a frugal mindset and limiting beliefs) shifted her energy, as well as how long it took her to practice before noticing results.
Her replies were simple.
"As I wrote in the book, I couldn't understand the concept of Having at first. I was thinking, "I am losing money when I spend the money. How can I feel I have money?" This kind of thought was an initial challenge in my head. However, once I started to practice Having, it was not that difficult to shift my existing paradigm."
"Of course [I experienced conflicting feelings], I am a human being and I experience negative feelings too. As I wrote in chapter 22, anxiety bothered me once in a while. But, when I felt anxious, I read Suh Yoon's words several times and was able to get back to my comfortable status. The good news is when you practice Having, you will experience less negative feelings."
Part of what propelled me to believe in Having [before seeing], was understanding that tangible wealth comes only after you believe you have what you desire. You can’t recognize any good fortune (or a physical result) unless you’re fully committed to seeing it... and fully convinced it’s true.
I wanted to share this book with you because I understand how many people live in scarcity and lack. Collectively, most people live in a state of deficiency that can easily be replaced by practicing having what we want. The truth is, the things we see in our lives are only a result of what we tell ourselves and believe in our minds to be true. It's entirely subjective.
The Having has given me tremendous power to re-evaluate my beliefs about material wealth, good fortune, and abundance/prosperity in life. What started in a world of “not enough” and “I can’t have it” soon turned into “I have it all” and "l see how much I have."
While my financial numbers have yet to make tremendous leaps and bounds, I have shifted my entire world to see how truly wealthy I am in all areas of my life.
The funny thing is, I always knew changing your emotions and your feelings were the hidden key to changing your mindset and beliefs without all the necessary work in between. If you change your energy and undo the frugal beliefs you carry, while shifting your mindset to believing you have whatever you want, you will birth a new set of neural networks that will perceive life differently. It takes courage and determination to face the painful beliefs we hold and let them go in exchange for more power and wealth in our lives. But, when you tell your mind, through the power of your feelings, that you already have what you need and desire - you give rise to a tremendous shift in paradigm that allows you to recognize those things in reality because your mind won’t stand in the way any longer.
"If you tell your mind and in turn feeeel like you don’t have, you won’t.
But if you insist to yourself and embody the energy of already having everything you want, your energy will make your mind believe it and the result will cause you to see tangible results.”
The Book The Having is a good take on brain chemistry, financial analysis, spiritual development, and emotional intelligence. I loved the simple way such complex insights were delivered by Jooyun, and how the conveyance of an important message was delivered with so much charisma by Suh Yoon Lee.
I didn’t know how I was going to write this article because there were so many lessons I absorbed that I wanted to share in a single post. What I gathered by reading the book, however, is that we have infinite power to achieve what we desire, but most of us are confined to emotions and a state of mind that contradicts the arrival of what we want. Having is a sure-tell way of noticing what we have, claiming what we want, owning our desires, and well... having it all before we see it physically.
Naturally, you may come up with all the doubts that your mind can conjure. Whatever.
But, let me remind you that the only way you’ll see results is by surrendering those limiting beliefs and just trusting the process anyways. If you’re determined to see what you have, or determined to prove that you don’t have anything at all, either way, you're right. I found that limiting beliefs about my potential and my wealth were no longer working for me. So, instead I chose to dedicate myself to learning and practicing the process of undoing lifetimes [and generations] of poverty-programming so that I can recognize the absolute abundance and good fortune that walk my life with me.
I've linked the book several times throughout this article, in case you're ready to leap of faith. I am also submitting the interview questions I sent to Jooyun, so that you may recognize from where she started and how she conquered old beliefs to emerge a lifetime of wealth, success, and prosperity.
I know there is a great need for a shift in collective paradigm, especially in the areas of wealth, abundance, opportunities, and success. I hope that my platform and the creative works of Jooyun Hong and Suh Yoon Lee will contribute on a wide enough scale to change [at least] a few lives.
About a month ago, I was poor in my mind. The world didn't work in my favor, and there was no way I could make ends meet. Today, I stand strong knowing I conquered ALL of those deeply-engraved beliefs. I recognize the limitless abundance that reigns in my life. I have everything I want in all the areas of my life (even when I seek improvement.) I live gratefully and give abundantly, knowing well and true that I have more than enough.
Wishing you a lifetime (and a mindset) of abundance, good fortune, and wealth!
Grateful and counting,
Interview Questions & Replies with Jooyun Hong
When you first met Suh Yoon and started "having" according to the insight she shared with you, surely you were in a different place. I would like to know what kind of challenges and breakthroughs you faced as you were emerging your new mentality of abundance.
As I wrote in the book, I couldn't understand the concept of Having at first. I was thinking, "I am losing money when I spend the money. How can I feel I have money?". This kind of thought was an initial challenge in my head. However, once I started to practice Having, it was not that difficult to shift my existing paradigm.
Is there any insight that since the very moment you learned it, has stayed with you indefinitely? A token of wisdom that continues to remain in the back of your mind to remind you to stay on the right track? If so, what could it be?
Several insights stayed with me. I regularly read Suh Yoon's quotes in the Having as well. Here is my best quote from Suh Yoon, which helped me while I practice Having or when I feel anxious:
"There are vast amounts of money in this world. The way we feel a cool touch when immersing our hands in water, we can also enjoy fortune and feel abundance. That is Having: the inner power to accelerate and change the flow of water. Just as a trickling stream eventually flows to the ocean, Having lets us naturally flow to a bigger fortune." (p24)
These words helped me to change my perspective about money. Before I learned Having, I thought money was a scarce resource.
Most people claim that this shift in paradigm will take too long to see any results and lose hope before even getting started. What would you advise to a new "haver" to keep pushing through the discomfort of this growth even if it's difficult to believe in having at first?
Having is easy to practice and you will be amazed at the changes in your mindset. As I wrote in the book, Having is the best way to train your mindset. For me, I felt a lot more comfortable about money even before I saw big results. Actually, it did not take long to see good fortune in my life. For me, I started to see positive signs in my life within two weeks.
Have you practiced having in other areas of your life? If so, which areas of your life have benefited the most?
Having is the best way to listen to what you truly want and live as you want. I practice Having in every aspect of my life. When I have to make an important decision, or when I feel anxious about my future, I use Having and as a result, I feel a lot more comfortable about my decision. After I practice Having, I live as my true self. I feel and appreciate more about my life. It is such a good feeling to live as I want.
What would you tell someone who doesn't understand the correlation between having and building tangible wealth? Also, is there a difference (according to your perspective) between building wealth and good fortune?
For me, I feel building wealth and meeting good fortune is the same. Since I practice Having, I am meeting more good fortune along this way. As for the building wealth, you will see numbers so it is more tangible. :-) In my case, my assets have grown since I finished writing the book and are still growing now.
Were there ever moments of conflicting feelings while you were practicing having? If so, how did you overcome these emotional challenges?
Of course, I am a human being and I experience negative feelings too. As I wrote in chapter 22, anxiety bothered me once in a while. When I felt anxious, I read Suh Yoon's words several times and was able to get back to my comfortable status. The good news is when you practice Having more, you will experience less negative feelings.
What would you say to someone you have just tried to explain "Having" to, but who seems to be ignorant of the effects and possibilities that Having can benefit?
Advice for the beginners, I want to say Having is a small and easy habit which you can start right away. You don't need to make up your mind to start something new. Small changes in your mindset or just this mini habit will make you feel a lot better. There is no need to make a big effort or change your current lifestyle.
As Suh Yoon said, "Emotions are the answer. Emotions are the energy the universe grants you.(Chapter 17)"